Posts by Bill Bray

Distressing Events, REM Sleep, & EMDR Therapy

Posted by on Sep 21, 2018 in Research | 0 comments

Distressing Events, REM Sleep, & EMDR Therapy

Several weeks ago, strolling through our local Barnes & Noble, a book title caught my eye. Why We Sleep; Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams (2017) by Matthew Walker, PhD. Little did I know in that moment, it would become a most interesting and informative read. Dr. Walker is a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and the director of the Center for Human Sleep Science. He is also a former professor of psychiatry at Harvard University. I was particularly interested in reading about the stage of REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, and its...

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Feeling Our Feelings: Revisited

Posted by on Apr 29, 2018 in Research | 0 comments

Feeling Our Feelings: Revisited

A year ago, March, I posted a blog called “Feeling My Feelings” (3/5/17), occasioned by the decision to put our beloved 14-year-old dog, “Mia,” a Papillon, to sleep. My wife and I agonized for weeks over Mia’s failing condition. I said in that blog that my intent was “not to subvert the purpose of the blog, or even memorialize our ‘furry, quirky, little dog,'” as my wife called her, but to…emphasize the importance of ‘feeling our feelings.'” Even now as I write this, I feel that same, old familiar ache in my stomach. Five...

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Relationship Conflict and the Transformative Power of Feeling Safe

Posted by on Jan 28, 2018 in Research | 0 comments

Relationship Conflict and the Transformative Power of Feeling Safe

Emotional flooding. Psychologist John Gottman, PhD, explains what it means: “(Your body mobilizes) so that it can effectively cope with emergencies that might injure you. The way this works is that in situations you perceive as ‘dangerous’…a series of things happen in your body. It can even happen without your awareness. For example, suppose you are driving down the highway at night and suddenly see headlights in your lane coming right at you. You swerve onto the shoulder and narrowly avert a collision. If we were to examine your physiology at the moment, we would find...

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Vicarious Traumatization (VT)

Posted by on Nov 22, 2017 in Research | 0 comments

Vicarious Traumatization (VT)

On November 6, 2017, CNN reported that of the 30 deadliest shootings in the US dating back to 1949, 18 have occurred in the last 10 years. Two of the five deadliest have taken place in just the last 35 days. On Sunday, November 5, 2017, a gunman opened fire inside a small community church in Sutherland Springs, Texas, killing 26 people; the fifth-deadliest shooting in modern US history. On October 1, 2017, a gunman opened fire from the 32nd floor of the Mandalay Bay Resort and Casino on a crowd of more than 20,000 gathered on the Las Vegas Strip for a music festival. He kills 58 people and...

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The Value of Negative Experiences

Posted by on Sep 17, 2017 in Research | 0 comments

The Value of Negative Experiences

February 5 was NOT a good day for me. In the words of the popular children’s writer and psychoanalyst Judith Viorst, it was a “Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.” My car was broken into while jogging, involving the theft of my wallet, credit cards, and checkbook. I remember the sick feeling in my stomach as I spotted the shattered back window from a distance. Looking immediately into the console of my car–where these items were kept–only confirmed my fears. Everything was gone. Those of you having experienced identity theft know the feeling all too well. Exacerbating...

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